TRANSCENDING but INCLUDING what was good from the past

The founding fathers wanted our country to evolve because they were themselves evolving. We don't teach our children how to personally evolve and grow. Evolution is happening in spite of our broken schools and parenting.  A simple truth, that is being ignored is: if social structures are not continually updated, TRANSCENDING but INCLUDING what was good from the past, they eventually breakdown and regress. The more people cling to ALL the past without updating and transcending the past, (and spitting out that which can be replaced by something more conscious) the more they can devolve and regress. They become incapable of synthesizing polarities and become unipolar in their thinking. For them, Yin has to WIN over Yang. We have "Polarities" and "Ladders" in life.  ALL aspects of life are based on homeostasis between polarities. AND the climbing of "ladders" from less sophistication and awareness to MORE sophistication, awareness, and transcendence. The founding fathers sensed this but couldn't quite articulate it. The LAST thing they wanted was for the constitution and political parties to become dogmatized rigidified RELIGIONS. Because the right is more "amygdala based", it has become MORE entrenched in its own fears by feeding itself unipolar, fearful biased information in a continual positive feedback loop and then protecting itself against new beliefs and perspectives that threaten the security that many of the old outdated beliefs give them. The less fearful right of the 1950s, although antiquated in many ways, would not recognize the more paranoid right of today.

What you can't (won't) feel, you confabulate.

What you can't (won’t) perceive, you merely imagine (overlay).

What you can't (won't) be, you project.

When you can't (won't) sense, you merely categorize.

What you can't (won't) think, you “fundamentalize” or simplify.

When you can't (won't) see, you believe.

When you can't (won't) spontaneously act, you moralize.

When you can't (won't) “die and renew” psychologically, you rigidify.

Seeing things as they are

To see things as they are is to have no seer to interfere with what is seen. It means to have an unblemished lens. This seeing can emerge and strengthen during deep meditation and later in deep mindfulness. It emerges from a state of not knowing, a state of emptiness, an intelligent  spaciousness, the space whereby you can perceive, the space whereby you can think. Seeing things as they are means being conscious of whatever arises in awareness. It also means seeing that there actually are no “things” in reality to see. There is only that which is in the space of isness or suchness. There is no duality between seer and seen but only seeing. Any witness or seer can blemish the lens of pure self aware isness.

Ten Necessary Realizations

1 All emotional pain can be processed and healed (what you can feel you can heal)

2 State Enlightenment is possible (Full Awakening)

3 Developmental Enlightenment is possible (Transcendent Maturity) Including and transcending previous stages4 It is possible to stand in one's truth in a sick society (vomit up “anti-life” beliefs, become healthy)

6 Old mental structures and beliefs must go (deconstruction and extension of our ceiling)

5 The “unqualifiable” within us can handle all problems (profound mindfulness)

8 We must fully harness the impulse to evolve and grow. (getting on the conveyor belt)

7 It is possible to profoundly connect, commune and bond with others (core to core connection to individuals and tribe)

9 We must access non-local consciousness (an essential part of who we are)

10 Self-love and self-compassion are essential starting points (love yourself hating yourself)

Discernment vs judgmentalness

It is a popular believe that one should not be judgmental of others. It is true that being over judgemental comes from shadow or wounded unintegrated parts of ourself. I believe there is also healthy normal judgmentalness. It’s just an aspect of monkey mind to be treated with compassion. The most unhealthy judgmentalness is to be judgemental of our judgementalness. 

More important is to distinguish between judgmentalness and discernment. To discern is to be naked to data, to allow the data to pe processed as it is, as it arises. It means to honestly allow our discernment processes to do their thing. It means holding the space and intention for our own intelligence to arise. In this space a high level of discernment can occur. We must allow our lens on the world to be as free from distortions and blemishes as possible. We must realize we can only see and interpret the data according to the level of development we our on, and only according to how much we have practiced authentic discernment. Discernment is a genuine organismic function and should be practiced along with meditation.

Getting in touch with painful unmet childhood needs

Most people, in my judgment, never become aware of their deepest unmet childhood needs. Repressing the feeling of these needs and the pain associated with it significantly interferes with the experience of the present moment and thickens one's walls against the world. Most people are not even aware that major parts of themselves got left behind in unbearable numbed-out pain. This is a major symptom of modern civilization. To feel through these needs and retrieve the parts of ourselves that got left behind is completely necessary to be fully human and fully enlightened. Unfortunately few wisdom traditions include truly deep “soul retrieval” processes and are thus incomplete in my judgment. 

Premature dedication or fixation of our cognitive and emotional potential

In my judgment, people are born with something like “cognitive stem cells” or  units of cognitive and emotional potential. As we grow up, these cognitive potentials become specialized and committed. The problem is that all too often these potential cognitive resources become crystallized, dedicated and committed prematurely. This is done when there is trauma or stress growing up requiring the organism to mobilize resources before the highest cognitive or emotional potential can be reached. I discern a huge amount premature dedication of potential in most people. Most people never get a chance to live up to their full potential because their potential resources are used up by the time they are in their twenties. They cease to appear open and receptive and become preoccupied with, and trappen in very limited unintegrated views of the world. Their world appears to the as “given” and obvious. Some of this potential can be reclaimed through meditation and shadow work. It is rare to find someone whose has many “cognitive stem cells” left to explore a world of ever emerging new potential. This is also related to the over domination of the left hemisphere over the right. The left hemisphere likes to narrow things down and routinized things to what it already knows. The right hemisphere is more open to what’s possible and what is yet unknown.

compartmentalization

We all live in a reality box with limitations. There are certain things that we have not developed  the capacity to perceive and understand. some of us have relatively small reality boxes with more simple “Lego” versions of the world.  others have split up their reality box into fragmented compartments that the compartments have no or limited contact with each other. in this case, little integration can occur. These people identify with one compartment and avoid the other compartments  that may contradict their unconscious beliefs. When this compartmentalization occurs within people in power, great damage is done to society and to the globe. This could even spell the end of humanity. These people fail to see the effect how an action in one part of life can affect another part of life. 

Contactfulness

 To be in full contact with oneself and others is all important. Yet in my judgement that rarely happens in our society. Contactfulness is our nature when we are healthy. Contactfulness means we approach others completely present with our eyes, body and soul ready to see and be seen. To make eye contact in the most subtle way so that one becomes aware of each other's micromovements and feel each movement with one's body and feel one’s subtle responses with one's body. To engage in a dance with others that transcends the mind and allows for souls to touch. Contactfulness allows for seeing each other the way we are, instead of seeing our projections. It allows both parties to see that they are being seen. Being truly in deep contact allows for the soul to be nourished.  

Seeing the World Not According to Anybody

To see the world not according to anybody is an important skill to stay out of all sorts of mental traps and prisons. It takes great "awakenedness," agility and questioning of everything. To continually see the world according to how you were taught or according to past assumptions about the world

You don't hear me! The competency to relate - Thomas Hübl CLF 2014

The Unconscious

The unconscious is very real and is a huge part of us. By unconscious I mean the stored up unfinished business from earlier in our lives. It includes the parts of ourselves that are anesthetized because we are too afraid to be that part in the world. It is like shadow but can be looked at as a self-regulating entity that gives to consciousness only what consciousness is ready to handle. If we treat our unconscious with love and respect it will treat us relatively gently. If we try to destroy it or try to get rid of it, it will treat us in the same way. 

The question is how do we make the unconscious conscious by finishing our unfinished emotional business and by getting back the parts of ourselves we're not aware of. This is a skill that can take years of practice. I will be giving some helpful hints in making this journey; it is perhaps the most important, most difficult journey anyone can take.

Outside of Outside

No matter what you feel, do, or think, there is something outside of it. It cannot be called a space because it is outside of space. It is outside of outside. You can only discover it by resting in it and not making it an object. It has no qualities the mind can give it, yet it leaves a wake we can rest in. This surrendering heals us and restores us. We are the spotless lens that can never be seen, but it's own spotlessness brings true bliss.

Intelligence

It is important to be our intelligence. Intelligence is both outside ourselves and inside ourselves. It is yet our intelligence. We access it by recognizing it. Can you recognize the intelligence that you are? Not as an idea but something so real it can be cut with a knife? Intelligence is very healthy, very energy intensive. My intelligence becomes me, focuses me, determines what’s important and goes beyond anything I can ever think. It penetrates right through my reality box. It takes me to new realms. It is always fresh and alive, never bogged down in old preconceptions and knowledge. It is much faster than any thought. It is not separate from the intelligence of the galaxies. It instantly shifts to what is appropriate. It allows me to dissolve into nothing when I'm not needed. It pulls my attention away from what's not needed to what's needed within a field of equanimity.

Do You Know God?

Truth

The only thing that really exists is truth. One can rest in the truth about truth. Truth has the remarkable ability to transcend itself; it penetrates every fiber of existence. Truth does not need thought. Even when there is nothing, there is truth.

Two Truths: Core and Non-Dual

It is important to feel the pressure from the reservoir of one's emotional pain and to not block this. This is the organism reminding you to attend to your old wounds and unfinished business. Many can't feel this pressure and hence it is easy to deny it. Many live their lives covering it up. No one is without this primal pressure to my knowledge. There are always pockets of unfinished pain even for those who have done many years of deep emotional work. This aspect of “shadow” can never be bypassed.

The beautiful thing is that if you learn to hang out with this pressure, or “nestle up” against it for a long period of time, it will begin to tell its story and allow you to feel through it and discharge the tears, anger, fear, disgust and/or pain it contains, layer by layer. So few people have found out how to do this directly and efficiently, yet I believe it is the most important tool for emotional healing there is. People will try any technique before being willing to just directly hang out with, and learn to process their pain for an hour. The unconscious just lies waiting for us to do this, often for decades. It is easier to climb Mount Everest, than to make this processing a life practice. This natural ability could be called the “Core Truth Process” because it comes from one's core of emotion and being.

This core truth process is absolutely compatible and completely balances with the mindful practice of remaining in and coming from the ever-present non-dual. The dwelling in the non-dual could be called the “Non-dual Truth Process”. Consciously putting together the two truth processes of “Core Truth” of the individual organism and “Non-dual Truth” of the “extended universal organism” is optimal for total organismic health; it reinstates self-regulation. Both are absolutely fundamental and necessary when being moved by one's fundamental evolutionary impulses and are expressions of our true and authentic nature.

Emotional Literacy Rough Draft

Emotional literacy in my view, is a great rarity. My guess is that less than one percent of people are emotionally literate. To become emotionally literate you must become a student of your own emotions. You must be willing to look directly at your emotions and their messages without any theory or biases. Later, you can look at emotions according to a large variety of theories.

First of all, emotions are rarely rational and rarely justified completely; and it's okay to let them stay that way. Emotions just are, feelings just are. Feelings are in large part social and desire to be expressed.
Feelings and emotions are conscious entities, they are forms of consciousness. They can operate with some independence.

The healthiest way to express emotions is to share them to an open listener who can be a safe  container, where emotions are truly shared and the other person takes it as a share and not as a "make wrong", a dump on, or an attack. Also, the other person does not have to change when an emotion is just shared. 

Emotions require a great deal of loving attention, especially ones that have been left behind in the past or have been unattended to. When they are attended to, they open up and flow. They are an important part of our life energy. A healthy person fully feels the full range of emotions, including the negative emotions (even hatred).

Emotions require exquisite sensitivity to boundaries. This includes awareness of one's own boundaries and the others boundaries One must use their eyes and ears to detect and sense boundaries. Emotions and sensory organs must be closely connected and integrated. One must use their senses in order to assess safety and risk. One must see who one is talking to. 

  

Put Things in Front of You

It is important to put important things in your experience in front of you. This means your pains, concerns, issues, blockages, and the unknown. Whatever is vying for your attention needs to be put in front of you in a timely manner. To put something in front of you means to give it the attention it needs. It helps to imagine that it is in the center of your vision, in front of your face. What you truly face will be processed or acted on. When you give something of true interest your full attention the noise in the mind ceases and what needs to happen will happen. Most of us live in a phobic fearful state always avoiding what we need to put and hold in front of our face. We don’t realize the incredible, empowering feeling of living a life of holding what is truly most important in front of our face. In “integral” terms it means making subjects into objects. That which is not in front of the eyes will operate from behind the eyes.

Meditative and Primal States

Meditative and Primal states: I consider these two states to be the most therapeutic of all states.  The true meditative state allows one to rest in non-dual reality to restore one's self and gain clarity.  the primal state allows one to “peel the onion”, “untie the knots” to follow the “chain of pain” to one's past pain to allow for healing. Most people do not know what the non-dual and the primal states are except in fleeting glimpses yet I think they are among the most powerful of all states.