Emotional Literacy Rough Draft

Emotional literacy in my view, is a great rarity. My guess is that less than one percent of people are emotionally literate. To become emotionally literate you must become a student of your own emotions. You must be willing to look directly at your emotions and their messages without any theory or biases. Later, you can look at emotions according to a large variety of theories.

First of all, emotions are rarely rational and rarely justified completely; and it's okay to let them stay that way. Emotions just are, feelings just are. Feelings are in large part social and desire to be expressed.
Feelings and emotions are conscious entities, they are forms of consciousness. They can operate with some independence.

The healthiest way to express emotions is to share them to an open listener who can be a safe  container, where emotions are truly shared and the other person takes it as a share and not as a "make wrong", a dump on, or an attack. Also, the other person does not have to change when an emotion is just shared. 

Emotions require a great deal of loving attention, especially ones that have been left behind in the past or have been unattended to. When they are attended to, they open up and flow. They are an important part of our life energy. A healthy person fully feels the full range of emotions, including the negative emotions (even hatred).

Emotions require exquisite sensitivity to boundaries. This includes awareness of one's own boundaries and the others boundaries One must use their eyes and ears to detect and sense boundaries. Emotions and sensory organs must be closely connected and integrated. One must use their senses in order to assess safety and risk. One must see who one is talking to.